Where would you look for love?
My friends sure ask me some of the most interesting questions. I have been single for a long time and mostly by choice. I lost the love of my life to a tragic accident and I did not think I could ever love again, so why would I search for love.
I am sure every woman has compiled a list of what she expects her mate to look like or be like. I know I had made such a list as a young woman. However, the man I married actually did not fit the list I had created but I found myself loving him anyway.
I actually had forgotten about the list until a conversation I had with God after my husband’s death. I told God I wanted to be able to love Him the way He wanted and needed. Suddenly the thought came or some may call it a word from the precious Holy Spirit, “What if I want to use a man to love you with?” I pondered on that concept for a long time until I remembered my unfulfilled dream man list.
Although I did not go searching for this dream man, I met a man at a business conference that I thought had just walked out of my dreams and into my life. He scored 100% on my list. However, when the relationship did not develop beyond a profitable working relationship, I realized maybe I wasn’t his dream woman or mate. I believe there is a reason and purpose for everything and although I may not have been what this man wanted as a mate, he did for me what no man has done for me before. He was able to ignite in me a hope and belief that God could and would do anything for me. He was able to put God’s divine love back into my heart.
As I shared this experience with my friend, I wanted her to see that she did not have to go looking for love, love would find her when she was ready to receive it the way it comes. She probably did not even need a list because God would give her exactly what she needed. I think the purpose of my list was to show me God would give me what I wanted since He delights in giving us the desires of our heart. However, the experience with my dream list caused me to give my list over to God. Instead, I asked God to fulfill His dream for me since my dreams had been fulfilled.
I reminded my friend that if you are not with the love of your life right now, God is probably preparing each of you for each other.
I also reminded my friend that “Love never fails…” True love will find you and it will be great because God delights in giving good gifts.